Many parents and caregivers genuinely love their children and have good intentions deep down but have their own limitations due to various types of wounding. It could be the way they were raised, addictions, mental illness, medical illness, oppression, multi-generational trauma, poverty, cultural factors or relational issues such as marriage troubles. As a result, caregivers may be emotionally unavailable, abusive, or simply misattuned to the child’s needs and feelings. This misattunement by can result in attachment wounds or attachment trauma at a young age that leads to anxiety in children and adults. I’ve found that somatic and brain-based trauma methods can release some of this old wounding in a warm nurturing therapeutic relationship. Relational methods such as EFT with couples and traditional talk therapy can also be helpful but I’ve found that sometimes it can be a slow uphill course until this wounding is addressed in deeper parts of the brain and body.